Words that arrowed straight to my heart....

Everyday Courage

Words that arrowed straight to my heart.... Just a few words… of such great power.

On the bookshelf to the right of my desk sits a simple hand-lettered card bearing birthday wishes  and this quote:

Happiness is a form of courage. –George Holbrook Jackson

When I read it, those six words arrowed straight to my heart. I wanted to ponder them.

But my birthday fell in the midst of the final crazy weeks of organizing, downsizing, packing and clearing out of Terraphilia, the beautiful, sculptural house built by my late love (and finished by me, with the help of friends) and Richard’s tool-filled historic studio.

I had just weathered the last-minute termination of one sale contract and was watching the second with heart in hand, and working with my builder and his crew to make sure Creek House would be finished enough that I could move in before I had to be out of Terraphilia. (Living in my car did not appeal.)

Time to think about happiness and courage will come after I get moved and settled, I told myself. Only moving happened in a whoosh just before the sale closed on October 9th, after which I got into my car and headed for Kansas City to present at the 2013 Women Writing the West Conference.

It’s 702 miles from Salida to the Embassy Suites in Kansas City (Missouri) where the conference was held. I imagined that long transit across the Plains would give me plenty of time to think.

Mountains to plains to prairie... Mountains to plains to prairie…

Only I was so exhausted that I just watched the landscape change from mountains to foothills to high plains to prairie mixed with fields irrigated by huge center-pivot sprinklers to farms with only occasional patches of prairie to woods, and finally to the two cities split by the wide Missouri River.

And then I was in the whirl of the conference, which didn’t pause for the next two and a half days as I listened and learned and talked, laughed and cheered and hugged, and generally helped tend an inspiring round of workshops and celebrations with a warm and supportive community of writers whose work centers on the women’s West–past, present and future. (Watch the Women Writing the West blog for photos and news.)

Before I knew it, it was time to climb into my car and head back west again.

On the drive home I’ll have time to think, I assured myself.

Through-the-windshield view of the Arkansas River Canyon Through-the-windshield view of the Arkansas River Canyon

I did. But nothing particularly coherent came of the electrical activity in my brain until about an hour from home when I swung into the familiar curves where the highway follows the Arkansas River Canyon into the mountains.

“Home,” I realized with something of a shock, was no longer Terraphilia, the house where Richard and I had planned to spend the rest of our days. I would never again drive up Third Street, round the corner, punch the garage-door opener and back into the garage next to Richard’s studio.


Home now lay on a different street. At Creek House, where I would form the new pattern for the rest of my life. Without the man I lived with and loved for almost 29 years.

That’s when the quote came back to mind: Happiness is another form of courage.

Richard memories and sculpture models on my bookshelf Richard memories and sculpture models on my bookshelf

I often say that I chose to be happy, regardless. I love life and long ago vowed to not take it for granted.

The shock of accompanying my rudely healthy, vital husband through his death from brain cancer at age 61 is an indelible reminder that life is a gift, not a given.

Courage comes from the heart. Literally as well as metaphorically, since the word stems from the Latin cor, for heart.

It takes courage to choose happiness in the face of the hard stuff life brings. Just as it takes courage to live fully through that same hard stuff.

But what other choice is there, really? Living without happiness, just like living without being present, is not really living. It’s merely existing.

I choose life. Even with the grief that hit me on arriving home. To my new house, alone.

I’d rather feel–and thus be able to choose happiness–than not feel at all. If that’s courage, I’ll take it.


I was tired last night when I wrote this post, and forgot to mention my blogging/writing friend Susan Tomlinson’s recent post on Joy and Courage. It’s worth the read. Everything Susan writes is.